Ed Welch recently wrote an article titled "About Love, or, Why I Hate Attraction," and its super interesting. If you have been around me for more than 231431 minutes, you will know how I stand on relationships and attraction. No, I DO NOT hate attraction, and I am NOT some sort of crazy prudish love hater.
I just think the role that so many people place attraction in, the center role usually- well, needs to be rethought a little bit.
I IMPLORE you to read the whole article. Click the title below.
About Love, Or, Why I Hate Attraction: by Ed Welch
Here is a tasty tidbit:
"Attraction is fun, and in Western systems of courtship and marriage, it is the way couples get started, but attraction is about me. It’s about how someone makes me feel. In that sense, attraction is rubbish. It gets people together but it is powerless to keep them together. Even more, attraction, without the addition of other forms of love, promises to separate marriages and any once-close relationship."
Amen brother, and I would possibly go so far to say that this kind of love should be adapted and applied to all Christian relationships. Example, are we "attracted" to your friends, because they can do something for us? Are we "attracted" to our church because of how it serves our "needs"? Or are we loving like Christ has called us to?
Thoughts?
6 comments:
Going to have to read the full article when I have time. Thanks for posting this
Yeah, its a great nugget of truth. I got lost a little bit on the wording in the middle, but it wraps itself up quite nicely at the end.
woah lady, good stuff.
LIES I tell you!
I love love. (just not obnoxious forms of "Love")
:)
Thank you for this. Gonna read the article after my comment . . . Today I went to church after a long time away and the topic was love, based on John 15:12. Pastor said love is a commandment, not a request to like, be nice, polite or cordial. But a commandment. The commandment is not void when your spouse loses their job. I found out my long-time neighbors divorced today. Attraction fades.
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A relationship with emotional and physical closeness, that may involve sexuality or may come close to sexual expression, when desired.There is no aspiration to long-term commitment and no expectation of exclusivity. Will certainly visit your site more often now.
isey
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